Thankyou Failure

Everyone writes about success. How to become successful? How not let it go to your head? everything about success is written, but what about failure. The only thing we have heard about failure is that they are stepping stones for success. Sure they are. But there is a lot more that failure can teach us. It is important that we learn from our failures every thing we can in order to become successful. Only when we fail we know our true well wishers, our true friends. Living in a materialistic world with too many fake people around, not many of us have true friends and many of us fail to notice these friends. When we fall, all the fake people and false smiles vanish. All that is left are a bunch of true friends and family with hope and encouragement. We will never know them until you face these hard times. It not only shows us the colors of the people around us, but can also make us stronger as individuals. A person who has failed a hundred times is not afraid to try again. People who have faced failures are more willing to take risks in life to achieve their goals unlike others who would rather change their goals. Failure is more like a wall between you and your goal. The more passionate we are about our goals, the higher are the chances for us to overcome our failure. Failure is a test of passion. Only passionate people will continue to try in spite of discouragements. Only passionate people will not take up wrong ways to attain success but would stick on to their honest ways. So thank your failures and start learning from them as much as you can. Good luck!

First month in a new city

One month back, I moved out of Chennai with a heavy luggage and a heavier heart. Moving out of the city that had been my home since birth was not really exciting. The next few months I had to spend in a city that I've never imagined of living in, with people whose culture was quite different from mine and a climate that melts my heart but freezes my body. Pune. I almost knew nothing about this city when i came here but today it excites me to know more and more about the places, people and traditions here. The climate is cool and rainy all the time, so different from hot and humid Chennai. The people are more social, outgoing and open. There are more trees and mountains than malls and complexes. Transitioning from college to work and at the same time adapting to an entirely new city would be a memorable period in anybody's life. For a moment it seemed to me like everything had changed..my breezy college verandas were now replaced with centrally air conditioned workplace, my dependency on my dad for every little work had vanished overnight, I could no more beg my mom for 5 more minutes of sleep in the morning, my tongue started tasting more of chapathi than rice and I had to use my umbrella more than thrice in a day. But in spite of all these changes there were things that still hadn't changed. People however different by region, religion, language and culture remain the same by nature in many ways. Everybody laughs for a good joke, everybody loves to learn a few words in a new language and everybody want a break when it gets hectic. Amidst all the changes I still get to listen to my favourite music, gossip with girls, and do all my favourite things. Feeling independent every moment, handling circumstances, adjusting and learning new languages and cultures are not just changes but lessons for life. At first I was afraid if I could accept all the changes that would come my way but now I've started loving them and that makes me feel that going back to Chennai would no doubt bring much joy to me but Pune will forever have a special place in my heart.

What did you miss?

With technology and science changing the world faster than what mankind had ever imagined, our daily lives have also changed slowly. There were times, I remember my friends used to fight with me for not remembering their phone numbers but these days nobody expects us to remember their details, for they know its all stored on our smartphones or on some social networking site. Technology seems to have reduced the load on our memory or should I say put our memory to sleep. But this is much more than us not being able to use the human brain to its full potential. We have attached ourselves so much to technology and its benefits that we have distanced ourselves from the actual active world. There is nothing like going shop to shop and getting the best birthday present for your friend. Wouldn't you miss that feeling of happiness when the gift impresses her, if you had ordered it online and sent some stranger to deliver it for you? Will not your loved ones feel more special if you wished them on their special days without any alarms or reminders? Don't you think feeding birds on road-side will be more fun than playing farmville games online? And wouldn't God himself be more pleased if you did not take VVIP passes to get His darshan. Together with all these little things we are missing, we miss the happiness that is tied to them, we miss the magic that makes our relationships stronger and we miss life itself that is to be lived with people and not gadgets. So the next time you are in your doctor's waiting room, lift you head from your temple run game and talk to the old lady beside you, the next time you go to a distant relatives marriage, stop posting fb statuses and try to play with the kids around. When you walk on the road or travel in the bus, don't search for your head phones but look around and try to know your city better. Taking a complete break from our mechanical lives might be difficult or even impossible for most of us but we sure can live our day-to-day mechanical lives as human beings. So today before you go to bed, take sometime for yourself and think "What did you miss?".

Are you not placed yet?

Its the beginning of October and I'm in my 7th semester of my engineering degree, in the final year of my studies. One question that anyone and everyone whom I've been talking to lately have asked me or have been wanting me to answer is "Are you not placed yet?". And when finally the first big company stepped into my college, I was out of the race in the very first round. And not just me a number of others who wrote the first round of aptitude test with me. I believe that most of them would share the same feelings as I do right now. Right or wrong the first thought that hits us hard is, "My friends are placed", and when it happens by luck to a few, it hurts even more. The deserving people deserve it but what about the few of them who got it by luck. "Should I not be in that place?" is the question that my heart wants an answer for. Just as I write about this I get glimpses of standing in my school 4 years back from today, we had completed our 12th standard exams and I was walking to a number of people and consoling them. Yes, makes me laugh even today, I walked to those girls who were crying saying that they'll fail their exams and told them that they'll pass, trying to make them feel better and guess what, most of them got into better colleges than me. I wonder if they had lied when they said they'll fail or they did not know that their parents will pay any amount to get them into a good college. I felt lost when the results came but I was into a college too, not the best but a good one where studies was not the end of the world. And here today when I was just about to get lost, those thoughts bring me back to normal for I know that its just the beginning, another beginning, of a story that has better things coming ahead. And once again I'm telling all those around me to wait and not lose hope. After all its just the first interview and i believe that God knows where to place each one in life's race. Will he not know the right place for me and all my friends? So here I am moving on hoping to write a happier note sooner!

Happy realisation

I think very often about God and the creation of life.When I was a kid I did not believe in any God,then I understood that God exists but religions don't exist.God is one as all great people have said. so if he does exist then who is he? Where is he? How does he look like? How did he create this system? Is God he, she or it? A lot of questions like these have been haunting human beings for many many years. They did haunt me until I developed a new concept and started believing it strongly. My concept is easy, believable and explainable. Even before kindergarten we have been taught this basic concept.Remember what our parents taught us ? "you do good things God will bless you and if you do bad things he will punish you".As we grew up we were told that God is not anywhere else but in our hearts within us. When we give this a little thought we come to know that our conscience is our God! When we do good our conscience blesses us with satisfaction and happiness which is the ultimate blessing any normal man living in this world wants. When we do bad things our conscience punishes us by making us feel guilty and by taking sleep away from us, which i consider the ultimate punishment!. If a person understands this and realizes this conscience which is no where else but within him there will be no problem in this entire world. Just think if a terrorist or a corrupt politician develops a powerful conscience they will develop guiltiness which has a power to change the worst of hearts! Now there will be new questions like who created the universe the atoms the sky the earth etc.By trying to unwind these mysteries we only land up in confusions and more questions. By knowing who created this universe we achieve nothing..these mysteries according to me add beauty to this world! they add beauty to life and make it exciting. Moreover when we know that we are not going to get accurate answers we must stop guessing and do what we can..what can we?? We need happiness and satisfaction..for which we must do good..good to the country or people or animals or any thing in this world depending on which gives us happiness and we must avoid feeling guilty..at least often..now if God is our conscience then what is a prayer?is it needed?..yes prayer is not chanting mantras for which you don't know the meaning it is telling your problems to yourself. by doing so we put things that are confusing in an order which helps us sort out the problem calmly and easily.when we pray truthfully by talking to our conscience we can feel the good and bad within us fight .We must let them debate and watch carefully. This is similar to writing our problems in a piece of paper and writing the advantages of solving it in the right and wrong way!.The concept gets intense when one thinks of a thanksgiving prayer...at such a point we thank a superpower that has created this earth! The ultimate conclusion is that God exists but since i don't know him i take him as my conscience !It guides me to do good which is all i can do..people who don't know their conscience turn evil! while others who trust in "a God"..not God but "a God" trust him as a conscience and do good depending on him and fearing him!which is better "me doing my test honestly because my teacher is watching and she will punish me" or "me doing it honestly because i know that copying is bad and i will not sleep peacefully that night"...though i don't copy in both cases there is a huge difference in counting on a teacher and counting on myself!..know your conscience next time when you do something bad have the thought that your conscience is feeling ashamed and it will punish you with guiltiness..trust me you will never want to be evil! happy realization! its not wrong to fail honestly and its not right to pass by cheating!